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Mama Said There Would Be Days Like This

Beth's New Normal

bad dayToday is one of those days. You know what I mean, you’ve experienced them. A co-worker has been given a traumatic diagnosis, my mom has been given a new tough medical hurdle to jump, a friend’s fiance (that she prayed and begged God to provide her for years) passes in his sleep. Today is one of those days I truly shut my office door and begged God to help me accept that he is in complete and total control and I have to trust Him.

Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do kids get cancer? Why does tragedy strike at the most horrific times, and why does it seem to avoid the mean people in life and attack those trying to make a difference. The reality is tragedy strikes ALL of us at some point. It’s where we choose to go during the storm that truly matters…

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Book Review: The Better Life Book

We love this blog by our gurl member Beth Wyatt. Enjoy!

Beth's New Normal

I have an addiction to self help books.  I’ll be the first to admit there is something simply tantalizing about seeing someone make something out of nothing, and make that something rocket into amazing!   However,  there are few times that I actually finish these books.  Honestly, often I find the person’s writing to lack genuine appeal, or simply find their ideals to far fetched to stomach.  Often I’ve done this guilt dance where I continue to read a bit out of guilt, after all I committed when I purchased the book, right?  Then walk away disgusted with my wasted time and efforts.

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This past week, however, I was blessed to read “The Better Life Book” by Rosemarie Francis.  This book is a power house of nitty gritty honesty, hope, and joy with a shot of, “Go girl! You got this! “ It’s…

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Balancing Act: Balancing Motherhood and a New Business

As the mother of a rambunctious 7-year old boy, a teacher and a woman trying to start her own business, I know how difficult finding time can be. Yes, we have the same amount of hours per day as Beyoncé, but it doesn’t always feel like it.

Here are five ways I’ve found to work on my business plan without sacrificing time with family:

  1. Combine Activities – I read writing books on the stationery bike. I come up with story ideas while walking or driving. Sometimes, my son just enjoys me sitting next to him when he’s engaged in other activities. He finds my presence comforting. I’ve written articles with him sitting in my lap playing Minecraft, and next to him on the couch while he was watching Scooby Doo. Then we go outside and play baseball and read books, and I put the technology away.
  1. Limit Internet Time – Using social media and responding to email is key to promoting your small business. But, I often find myself going online to contact potential clients and three hours later I am looking up brownie recipes. So, I set a time limit of 1 hour and make a list of what I plan to accomplish online. A sample day’s list: 1. Contact two potential clients. 2. Set up Twitter account 3. Add organization to LinkedIn profile 4. Add new article to my website. When I finish the list, I get off the internet. If I come up with some other brilliant task I need to do online, I write it down to do the next day. I realize depending on your job, this might be difficult. It’s still a good idea to consciously think about what you plan to do on the internet. It saves a lot of time for living in the real world.
  1. View Your Week as a Whole – I find it challenging to work on all facets of my life in a single day. But, it is entirely manageable in the context of a week. If I go to coffee to network on Tuesday night, I take my son to the park on Wednesday night. If I can’t make it to yoga on Friday because I’m going to my writing group to edit my article, I take an extra walk on Friday afternoon and go to yoga Saturday morning. I have what I call Strategic Sundays where I plan out the following week and try to fit in time for work, family, and myself. Things always come up and don’t go as planned, but the week model allows for more flexibility.
  1. Find Mom Friends in Your Field – I get my best ideas from other writers and teachers. I have a neighbor who teaches English. She also has a son my son’s age. We go to pumpkin farms and the pool. The kids play and have a great time while we talk. If you can find another mom in Gurlz forGurlz or at your workplace who you click with, playdates can be a great time for everyone and an opportunity to generate new ideas and bounce them off a new friend.
  1. Do What You Love – When I turned 40, I resolved to stop doing things I don’t like to do and do more of the things I love. That said, I still do laundry and clean the bathroom, but I say no to tasks that I was doing just to look good. I used to make cupcakes for my son’s school every time they had a party, but it took up a lot of time, and I didn’t enjoy doing it. Now, I use store bought cupcakes – and the world hasn’t ended. I used that extra hour to swing on the tire swing, and I think we’re all happier for it.

These are just some of the ways I’ve found to spend time with loved ones and grow my business. What about you? I would love to hear other ways people have found balance in our busy world. Contact me at melissa@melissamccaughan.com.

 Melissa McCaughan is a freelance writer, Journalism instructor and mother. Check out her freelance writing services for small businesses at http://www.melissamccaughan.com.